03 September 2011 @ 05:26 pm
Just needed to rant. It's ridiculous and I'm extremely bitchy today. Sorry...  


It's always interesting to track the kink memes. You get to know how many people out there have kinks as weird as your own and that's pretty awesome, if at times I wish I could unsee some of them. But it's always my own fault for looking, I get that.

But you also get to keep up with all the ~drama~. People are totally freaking out because someone reposted a prompt with the roles reversed and the OP thought it was "rude" as well as a few others. Here's what I find funny/aggravating:

The person switched the roles from bottom!Jensen to bottom!Jared. And the OP is angry because if they'd "wanted Jensen on top, I would have prompted it".

But I've seen prompts get reposted with the roles reversed all the time, and had nobody comment. You know what I've noticed about those prompts? They're bottom!Jared getting switched to bottom!Jensen. I've seen that happen multiple times, since I've been tracking these comms since I found out about them. And I've never seen them freak out over the bottom!Jared stuff getting switched to bottom!Jensen.

This obviously isn't actually the reason the OP is pissed and I know that. I'm just bitchy and moody and still miffed about someone commenting on a post with "it's not like bottom!Sam/Jared is a rarity" when only about 20% of this year's BB fics were bottom!Jared/Sam. So, yeah. In a ~mood~.

I'm really, really sorry for this stupid, ridiculous whining post. It didn't have much point beyond me wanting to just scream at all the stupid I've witnessed this past week.


 
 
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[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 12:46 am (UTC)
Ahhhh. *sighs in relief* So glad to hear someone that thinks the same as me. I just posted a request to Spnstoryfinders the other day, asking for long bottom!Jared/Sam fics, and I MIGHT have mentioned in the request, that my excuse was I couldn't find too many, that they seemed kinda rare, and I was hit with a couple of comments like, "This year's bigbangs are 80% bottom Jared." And exactly what you just put there, someone told me bottom!Sam/Jared isn't a rarity, when..I know good and well it IS! And I see TONS of requests for ONLY bottom!Jensen/Dean fics, and no one talks back to them whatsoever. :( People are unfair.
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 12:53 am (UTC)
I know, I was tracking your request! That's part of why the kink meme thing bugged me even more!

Bottom!Sam/Jared is rare, at least when compared to the amount of bottom!Dean/Jensen fic. And that's when we're lucky enough to find Sam in a pairing at all (since Dean/Castiel has become so popular and Dean gets a majority of the rare pairs as well).

When I read the comment on your post about bottom!Sam/Jared not being a rarity, my first thought was that they must read bottom!Jensen/Dean or top!Jared/Sam because only people who aren't bottom!S/J fans would say something like that. And like the brat I am, I checked their profile. They're part of the Bottom Jensen and Dean communities as well as the top Jared/Sam comm. *called it*
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:04 am (UTC)
*snickers* I do the exact same thing lately. I've noticed that if anyone mouths off about bottom!Sam/Jared fans, or even hurt!Sam/Jared fans, it's usually cuz they're bottom!Jensen/Dean fans. And then I feel like a bitch for being mad about it, cuz everyone deserves their preference. And you're right, Dean's in all the rare pairings, and if it's threesome or foursomes, the focus is always on Dean. But..I almost HATE bottom and/or hurt!Jensen/Dean fics, and yet I don't flame people who do. :( Wouldn't dream of it, cuz it's just not fair. And most fics I read lately, if it's bottom/hurt!Jensen/Dean, then Jared/Sam is usually an asshole trying to beg Jensen/Dean for forgiveness through most it...but oh well..I gotta stop, I'm feeling bitchy again. XD Did you read insertcode11's bigbang for this year? That is by far THEE best bigbang I've read! ;D
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:20 am (UTC)
UGH, I know! I hate seeing how Sam/Jared turns into an asshole if it's bottom!Jensen/Dean. I know it doesn't always turn out that way, but so many of them do. And I've read bottom!Jensen fics that I love (2 on my top 5 favorite RPS fics are bottom!Jensen), but it's because Jared is his sweet, lovable self. Goofy and puppy-like and gets his vulnerable moments and it's equal. There's no toppy/bastardness that I see so often in top!Jared fic.

I probably wouldn't have read her fic originally because of the length (I don't generally start reading fics that are longer than ~25k because I can't handle all the angst and suspense packed into longer fics a lot of the time. Another funny thing because most of my top 5 RPS fics are really long). But yeah, I actually got to beta it and experience the amazingness that was Lengths and I'm so glad because otherwise I would have missed out on one of the best pieces of fiction I've ever read.
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 02:01 am (UTC)
Oh you betaed it?!...Actually I think I might have known that, now that I think about it, I remember your name at the top or somewhere. *facepalm* So we have you to thank for some of that awesomeness too then! *beams* I remember being amazed that there was no word out of place, everything, the flow of it, the details, even the stinkin punctuation was SPOT. ON! ;D And would your awesome bottom!Jensen fics happen to be on your memories list? Cuz I'd love to see Jared written as his sweet, lovable self while being the "dominate" of the two, I'm actually not sure I've read a fic like that! :O
wolfish_willow: J2 - Dorks[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 02:08 am (UTC)
Dude, you have no idea how happy that makes me to hear. There were three of us who read over the fic and it's such an amazing feeling to know that we didn't miss too much. :D There was certainly a lot of fic to look over (and how awesome that was). :D

Hmm, I don't actually use my memories thing because it confuses me. BUT, I believe I have the links in my bookmarks.
Honestly, you might have already read them. Or at least 'Sunset' because it's fairly popular. But it's too amazing not to read, in my opinion. The same with 'Vending Machines'. And I've listened to the podfic for 'Sunset' more times than I can count.
As This Sunset Turns to Morning

But We'll Always Have Our Vending Machines
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 02:20 am (UTC)
Oh awesome, I actually..haven't read either one of those. *facepalm again* I've been living under a rock, sue me! *grins and smishes you*
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 08:23 am (UTC)
I really hope you enjoy them! I'm actually going to be rereading and/or re-listening to Sunset sometime this week, I'm sure. It's been on my mind for days. :D

And Vending Machines is just. *-* It makes me feel happy inside. :D
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 08:42 am (UTC)
And, OMG. I saw your response at the kink meme and can I just.. just...

*HUGS AND TWIRLS*

That was awesome to see pop up in my inbox, let me tell you. LOLOLOL I love that you've got the guts to do that, and that you did it un-anon. I couldn't even be that awesome if I was hiding behind anonymity.
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 04:23 pm (UTC)
WELL...I mean, I went over to see what you were talking about, and..it pissed me off too! And it looked like it was several Dean!girls vs. a Sam!girl, and I just...couldn't have that. *shakes head* I'm probably gonna get hate mail now. *snickers* And they were being extremely rude to her, and then the one pops up saying that she apologized and to leave it at that, but THEY sure didn't apologize. Just didn't seem fair. XD
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 05:19 pm (UTC)
*_________________________________________*

You're so cool. Because it really did seem like a bunch of Dean!girls against the one Sam!girl and yeah. *-* Awesomeness.
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 10:52 pm (UTC)
Heh, the "Sam!girl" sent me a PM, and went on and on thanking me for sticking up for her, and that she meant nothing by it when she reposted the same prompt, she didn't mean to be rude, and that she was just waiting for the shit storm to leave, and all that. *hugs her* Poor girl.
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 11:16 pm (UTC)
Awwwww, that's so great. ^-^ I'm glad that she had someone awesome sticking up for her. I saw that the mod took everything away and then said to not copy people's prompts. *rolls eyes* But at least you got in there before it all got taken away like she wasn't harassed for wanting the prompt as bottom!Jared.
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 5th, 2011 03:51 am (UTC)
*snorts* You know, someone should go and write EXACTLY THAT prompt she wanted for that meme, and make it aaaalllll about bottom!Jared. *giggles* I don't know if the other girl ever got it filled or not.
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 5th, 2011 04:14 am (UTC)
I KNOW. I wish I was comfortable with TPE and, well, anything really beyond vanilla Sam/Gabriel. She totally deserves to have her prompt filled after getting ganged up on and then basically having the mods agree with all the jerks. :(

The other one hasn't gotten filled, but it's gotten seconded, like, 4 or 5 times today. D:
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 5th, 2011 05:58 am (UTC)
Nooooooo! *grabs the last few bottom!Sam girls around and tucks em' away* We're being over run by bottom!Dean girls! *winces and hides under the covers*
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 5th, 2011 09:52 pm (UTC)
:'( :'( :'(

It's totally not cool, at all. :/

*hides with you*
[identity profile] cherry916.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:01 am (UTC)
IKR? It is rare cause for some reason since Jared is the bigger guy he must top which is highly untrue. Jensen is not a girl in the pairing as many people may want to believe or think and putting heteronormative ideas into slash is really rude. Just cause you are the smaller maybe less manly person doesn't mean your obviously the girl and bottoms. Same with Sam being bigger it's just stupid in my opinion
wolfish_willow: Jared & Misha[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:05 am (UTC)
THIS. THIS SO MUCH.

I don't understand how his size has to do with anything!!! And I don't get all the "Jensen/Dean's so pretty" comments because when I look at Dean, I see a total badass hunter (until recent seasons, but we won't talk about that right now) and when I look at Jensen I see the dude who plays Dean, the badass hunter. That speaks to me way more than size.

PEOPLE MAKE ME ANGRY GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
[identity profile] cherry916.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:07 am (UTC)
And at the recent con Jensen like went all berserk with a knife and cut up that inflatable duck (yeah really REALLY long story I suppose lol) and watching that I see no pretty boy Jensen I see manly, bad as fuck Jensen whose sexy when he tops ;)

Besides why can't Sam or Jared get some love? Or ever be vulnerable especially Jared?
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 02:07 am (UTC)
"And I don't get all the 'Jensen/Dean's so pretty' comments because when I look at Dean, I see a total badass hunter (until recent seasons, but we won't talk about that right now) and when I look at Jensen I see the dude who plays Dean, the badass hunter."

BWAHAHAHAHA! Totally made my night! *giggles hysterically*
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:11 am (UTC)
Yup, I agree. And I know Jensen is the softer, more feminine looking of the two, but for some reason, *I* see him as butch and macho. Even though I'm a Jared/Sam girl, it's when JENSEN/DEAN is written badly that irks me. XD Usually, when he's the bottom, he's all submissive and whiny, and just...*shudders* I don't like seeing him that way. JARED seems the most vulnerable to me, which is why I like him as the bottom. Cuz usually when HE'S the bottom, he still keeps his mature, sexy side of him, cuz..seeing HIM as submissive and girly? *snickers* ;P Anyway, that's how I see it. ;D
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:25 am (UTC)
I see Jensen as butch and macho, too! Like, I seriously never thought people would ever call him pretty until I found fandom and realized everyone liked putting him in the girl's role.

And I'm the same way. The reason I can't stand a lot of bottom!Jensen/Dean fics is because they act so OOC. It's okay in an AU because then the character can be whoever/however you want them to be. But I, personally, cannot read Dean when he's teary-eyed and submissive and made into someone completely the opposite of who his character is. And I've always seen Jensen as a top just because that's the personality I see from him. Even my best friend, who doesn't read slash at all or really get the whole "slashing" thing told me "Jared wouldn't be all toppy. He's such a sweet puppy". And she didn't mean that he couldn't top at all, just that he wouldn't be this huge jerk.

And yeah. He's usually kept fairly well in character with the right writers, which is a lot more enjoyable to read than when he's the top and OOC.
[identity profile] yvonnegos.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:54 am (UTC)
YEAH! That's another reason I don't like top!Sam/Jared, cuz you're absolutely right, he's way to sweet and cute to be all demanding and possessive and dominating and all that crap. Yup, yup, yup, couldn't agree more.
[identity profile] insertcode11.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 12:47 am (UTC)
*snorts* It's instances like this that make me want to issue a nasty blanket statement about all bottom!Jensen fans when I know that's not true.

I get the OP would be upset. But really, the person liked your prompt enough to see it, just with the characters switched. I would be miffed, but happy someone else liked my idea.

And, IDK which meme you're talking about, but can I just say? Most prompts for kink memes aren't that original to begin with. I'm just saying. >.>

I LOVE IT WHEN YOU'RE BITCHY. *CLINGS*
wolfish_willow: Sam's neck[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 12:56 am (UTC)
I'M GLAD YOU LOVE IT WHEN I'M BITCHY. *CLINGS BACK*

UGH, yeah. I get being upset, especially if the repost gets a fil when your own didn't. But I just find it ridiculous that it became an issue at all when it's happened tons before and nobody ever seems to get upset.

Freakin' bottom!Jensen/Dean fans. I get that there are nice ones out there, but it's really hard not to group them all together.

Like the Destiel shippers.

Man, I really am bitchy today. Good thing I'm trying to participate in that tumblr blackout thing today or I might lose some followers.
[identity profile] insertcode11.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:03 am (UTC)
Bahahaha. But I would have loved to see some bottom!Jensen/Dean and Destiel wank on my dash!!! D: D: D: How could you deprive me??

wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:06 am (UTC)
LOLOLOLOLOL

But now you got bottom!Jensen/Dean and Destiel wank on your flist. That's just as good, right?
[identity profile] insertcode11.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:15 am (UTC)
OMG IT IS EVEN BETTER! *rolls around in the wank*
[identity profile] cherry916.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 12:58 am (UTC)
It's really stupid and pathetic that over half of the hate and wank in this fandom is over Ships and things having to do with them. I mean Jesus this is all for fun get over yourself. I've seen prompts on other meme's taken without permission before (like mine) and I didn't jump their bones I just said hey that's my prompt and done with it. She should have said hey I linked that prompt in another meme and if someone wants to write it I as in me the original OP wants bottom!Jensen but if someone wants to wrote bottom!Jared for the other girl that's fine too. That would have solved all of their problems just ugh....this fandom sometimes. The things we fight over
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:09 am (UTC)
PEOPLE ARE STUUUUUUUUPID.

AND ANNOYING.

AND BITCHY.

LIKE ME.

ROAR.

But yeah. It didn't need to become an issue at all. So someone took your prompt and turned it around. What's the big deal. Especially since the OP asked for bottom!Jensen which has a better chance at getting filled than the new post anyways, at least in my experience with watching this and the blindfold meme. *rolls eyes* PEOPLE MAN. I'm not even Dean's biggest fan, but he hit the nail on the head: Demons I get, people are just crazy.
[identity profile] cherry916.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:11 am (UTC)
So what two people were going at it over that? I want the juice! Was this person like being all RAWR THAT'S MY PROMPT BITCH or what? Just some people are ridiculous
wolfish_willow[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:33 am (UTC)
Most of it happened anonymously. And the person who stood up for the OP is also a top!Jared/bottom!Jensen prompter. And the person who told everyone to cool it does both and while I'm glad they got everything stopped before it turned into a huge deal, it's still annoying that this person got told to reword/come up with their own prompt rather than taking it word for word. It really wouldn't bother me if I hadn't seen it done so often before with no comments or reprimands.

http://spnkink-meme.livejournal.com/49122.html?thread=12645602#t12645602
[identity profile] cherry916.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)
I don't know I still find it kinda funny that so many people go to these kink/prompt things anon like you wonder if it's lurkers for this stuff or actual members of our fandom too scared to show who they are?
[identity profile] lady-fetish.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 02:57 am (UTC)
Bottom!Jared/Sam is rare anymore out there. *nods* It use to be rare to see bottom!Jensen/Dean (which was so nice. LOL - this coming from a hard core bottom!Jared/Sam fan) but now it is totally the other way around. One of the HUGE reasons I don't read fics anymore. Alas, you won't find that on my board! *winks* And even in the rare fic where Jensen/Dean does bottom, he still kinda tops. LOL

XXX
-- Fetish
wolfish_willow: Jared - smile[identity profile] wolfish-willow.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 08:31 am (UTC)
I know! I've gone to your stuff more times than I can count when I've needed a bottom!Sam/Jared fix. *-*

The world for sure needs more bottom!Jared/Sam fans and fics. *nodnod*
[identity profile] meh-forget-it.livejournal.com on September 4th, 2011 07:40 pm (UTC)
Totally with you on this one! I got a review for one of my fics that stated they'd love to have seen who topped in the relationship between Sam and Gabriel because, in their words 'it's hard to tell, Sam's all meek and shy now but he's still really tall.' I kinda gaped a little. Then politely told them to check out all my other fics and see who they thought would bottom. *snicker* Come on!!! With hair that floppy, how can Jared/Sam not bottom. I mean, if all the top!Jared/Sam people can claim his height as the reason for him to top, dammit, we can claim his hair for the exact opposite reason! Nods!

... And the penchant to wear pink...

And the fact he's adorable and clearly a bottom. *nods*

And - I could go on... but er... actually, that's a lie, I couldn't go on at all. Totally run out of petty reasons. *snicker*

But yes! I totally see your point. People need to stop whining about *le gasp* god forbids people kink Jared/Sam as the bottom. I mean, I thought the whole point of a kink meme is that no one is sneered at for their kinks. Correct me if I'm wrong, but... are we bottom!Sammy/Jared people not being a little discriminated against for you know, ignoring the fact that he's six foot forever (because, clearly that makes him all toppy and dominant and grr...) Oh come on! I'm five foot nothing and I'm more freaking dominant than that guy! *snicker*

Okay, that's a total lie...

I'm just gonna sit here, in your corner and cheer you on... Yep. *waves flag*

More to the point, do we really think Dean would bottom for Samantha? *cackles*
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[identity profile] belladonnanoir.livejournal.com on September 11th, 2011 09:05 am (UTC)
I totally agree with you with what you said. I'm pretty much a dean!girl but I prefer the fics with bottom!Sam/Jared. I really don't understand the fics where Jensen is the bottom and made into a simpering girl. Not that I think Jared is a simpering girl either but he just seems the more likely one to bottom of the pair. It is just so hard to find any fics with a bottom!Jared these days like you said, I know a few people who write bottom!Jared but it is really rare to find them.

It's really unfair that the OP on the kink meme was angry with a top!Jensen, like you say lot's of people repost reversed prompts all the time.

The one thing that really annoys me is the lack of tolerance in the fandom from some people, they can't handle others having a different opinon and think it's ok to take it out on others. Personally I have never been on the end of the abuse but I do know others you have and I hate seeing it.

I love this post, the bitchness is just fantastic!!!! And I totally understand why your annoyed!!

*Hugs*
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